Society
The following is a collection of thoughts and opinions which I have accumulated over several years. This is indeed a topic which has intrigued me, and one which I still do not understand. Please do take into account who I am, and read on knowing that I have lived my life at what many would consider the bottom of the social line.
The following is a sort of essay, and written during school. (Modified when rewritten, of course)
Over the years I have come to have an outside perspective on society. Since society has cast me out, I wander its halls every day as merely a guest in a private club, if you will excuse the metaphor. This club is a clique, and its members have no wish to change the way they act. I have no wish to join such a club, as in my opinion the guests get all the real benefits. Think about it for a moment.
As a guest, I can keep my privacy. These members keep to themselves and as they pry into one another's lives and make gossip of everthing they find, guests are much less bothered. Gossip is nonetheless created about me, but at least I can rest knowing that none of it is in any way based in fact. Also, I can create my own gossip if I wish, revealing tidbits just to see how people react. They only truly know what I reveal to them.
Also, guests get to see the true character of these members. They consider themselves to be above me in society, so they treat me differently. Around other members, they act nicer, better, so that they do not lose this treasured membership. However, around guests they can do as they please. I see who people truly are in a way no member ever could. I can see who is actually worth knowing, and who is only an empty shell. Typically, only those not in these cliques are ever worth knowing, with some exceptions.
My personal favorite guest benefit is that I can act as I please, disobeying all the little laws and stereotypes that cliques set. For instance, I can find my own definition of what is "cool," what is beautiful, what love actually is, and what makes a person a friend. I can tell people that I disagree! I can wear short pants and short sleeves in mid-January when it's 30 degrees outside! In this way, it is difficult for these members to be free. Indeed, you cannot be free when you are bound by both the laws of America and the laws of some clique. Until these members realize that the best benefits come only by leaving these clubs, they will not be completely free.
I have chosen a path that few wished to tread. For me it is better to be the strange outcast than the deceptive member. I have no desire to be what is called "cool," and I fail to understand why anyone would have such a desire. Over the years, I allowed a wall to be built around me as people painted dull pictures of who I was, since I did not reveal myself to them. Today I am a quiet, boring nerd to anyone who is too short to see over this wall. Those that can see who I truly am quickly become my friends. In this way I weed out those that could not be good friends, and find those that could. I cannot claim that this was all my plan, but I now realize how well it worked. In this way I met some of my best friends, and often they were the people who were new to the area and had not been showed the wall people built around me, or those that society rejected. I try to be a friend to those that have no other friends. That is part of who I am, and for this reason no clique would ever accept me.
Until people realize that I choose not to join in this society, they will not realize that I would prove more interesting than they have painted me to be. I have been free from cliques on a few occasions, and I must say that a society without cliques is more enjoyable for ALL! It is so much better to be able to intermix as you wish, without fear of violating someone's little clique. Also, we must realize that once we get out of high school, these cliques will vanish. They will no longer matter, and we will never regret their vanishing. So why do we continue to maintain them?
For another discussion:
I read a lot of stuff that people don't think I'm reading. I find blogs that people don't realize I know about, and I read everything on blogs that people tell me about. I have noticed that ironically, many girls seem to complain about boys, and they often describe, intentionally or not, the person they wish they could find. The thing is, so many girls have not realized one fact. They are going out with and hanging out with the "cool" guys. Then they go online and say they wish they could find a nice guy. But what they must realize is that it is nearly impossible to find a guy that is both good-looking and truly good. They are looking in all the wrong places. I hear them complain that there aren't any good guys in our school, yet nearly all of my friends are single, although I may not be. Of course, my friends aren't the "dating type," as they would most likely say. Yet I remain convinced these are the good guys of our school. I would appreciate an explanation of this irony, if one exists.
I must say that I am thankful God showed me a girl that did not have this problem.
The following is a sort of essay, and written during school. (Modified when rewritten, of course)
Over the years I have come to have an outside perspective on society. Since society has cast me out, I wander its halls every day as merely a guest in a private club, if you will excuse the metaphor. This club is a clique, and its members have no wish to change the way they act. I have no wish to join such a club, as in my opinion the guests get all the real benefits. Think about it for a moment.
As a guest, I can keep my privacy. These members keep to themselves and as they pry into one another's lives and make gossip of everthing they find, guests are much less bothered. Gossip is nonetheless created about me, but at least I can rest knowing that none of it is in any way based in fact. Also, I can create my own gossip if I wish, revealing tidbits just to see how people react. They only truly know what I reveal to them.
Also, guests get to see the true character of these members. They consider themselves to be above me in society, so they treat me differently. Around other members, they act nicer, better, so that they do not lose this treasured membership. However, around guests they can do as they please. I see who people truly are in a way no member ever could. I can see who is actually worth knowing, and who is only an empty shell. Typically, only those not in these cliques are ever worth knowing, with some exceptions.
My personal favorite guest benefit is that I can act as I please, disobeying all the little laws and stereotypes that cliques set. For instance, I can find my own definition of what is "cool," what is beautiful, what love actually is, and what makes a person a friend. I can tell people that I disagree! I can wear short pants and short sleeves in mid-January when it's 30 degrees outside! In this way, it is difficult for these members to be free. Indeed, you cannot be free when you are bound by both the laws of America and the laws of some clique. Until these members realize that the best benefits come only by leaving these clubs, they will not be completely free.
I have chosen a path that few wished to tread. For me it is better to be the strange outcast than the deceptive member. I have no desire to be what is called "cool," and I fail to understand why anyone would have such a desire. Over the years, I allowed a wall to be built around me as people painted dull pictures of who I was, since I did not reveal myself to them. Today I am a quiet, boring nerd to anyone who is too short to see over this wall. Those that can see who I truly am quickly become my friends. In this way I weed out those that could not be good friends, and find those that could. I cannot claim that this was all my plan, but I now realize how well it worked. In this way I met some of my best friends, and often they were the people who were new to the area and had not been showed the wall people built around me, or those that society rejected. I try to be a friend to those that have no other friends. That is part of who I am, and for this reason no clique would ever accept me.
Until people realize that I choose not to join in this society, they will not realize that I would prove more interesting than they have painted me to be. I have been free from cliques on a few occasions, and I must say that a society without cliques is more enjoyable for ALL! It is so much better to be able to intermix as you wish, without fear of violating someone's little clique. Also, we must realize that once we get out of high school, these cliques will vanish. They will no longer matter, and we will never regret their vanishing. So why do we continue to maintain them?
For another discussion:
I read a lot of stuff that people don't think I'm reading. I find blogs that people don't realize I know about, and I read everything on blogs that people tell me about. I have noticed that ironically, many girls seem to complain about boys, and they often describe, intentionally or not, the person they wish they could find. The thing is, so many girls have not realized one fact. They are going out with and hanging out with the "cool" guys. Then they go online and say they wish they could find a nice guy. But what they must realize is that it is nearly impossible to find a guy that is both good-looking and truly good. They are looking in all the wrong places. I hear them complain that there aren't any good guys in our school, yet nearly all of my friends are single, although I may not be. Of course, my friends aren't the "dating type," as they would most likely say. Yet I remain convinced these are the good guys of our school. I would appreciate an explanation of this irony, if one exists.
I must say that I am thankful God showed me a girl that did not have this problem.
posted by Doug at 10:05 PM
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